During a large part of my life I kept my voice small. As a child I was really shy – somewhere along the way I heard that it was not safe to speak. I had internalized the conviction that my authentic self was “too much” or “not enough” – or if I really was me, I would be judged and rejected.
And so I diluted myself to fit the beliefs of society, shrinking and shapeshifting to be more ‘tasty’. In the end there were costs for that. My body began to show me symptoms – chronic fatigue, thyroid problems – to let me know that I was suppressing myself. I came to see that every time I stopped my truth, I became unwell.
That realization was the start of a healing journey back to reclaim my authentic self -expression – my voice – and essential oils became essential plant bonds in that journey. Working with essential oils can help us remember who we are, outside of fear – so I wanted to share how they can support us during that trip.
Why we lose our voice
As a culture, we are often taught to silence ourselves. Whether it is conditioning as a child, social expectations or the fear of being assessed, we learn that it is safer to stay quiet and small.
As aromatherapists, that story can also be very similar to many ‘healing fences’ that went for us – burned at the stake for our truth. Witches or not – we have learned to remain silent, not to share what is really in our hearts. To mask ourselves. Because our culture does not value the authenticity – it appreciates appropriate.
Yet it is an essential part of staying healthy to share our honest, authentic voice. When we hold our emotions and our truth, this can lead to stagnation, disconnection and even physical symptoms. In this way, as a culture, we learn that self -expression is not only a ‘fun to have’, the part of our well -being.
How essential oils can support our expression
Essential oils can work on different layers to support us – physically, emotionally and energetic. We can work with them to heal our body, our emotions and to reclaim our mind – which is often disconnected in our search for setting.
And although they help us to peel the layers of emotional wounds that we have experienced gently to keep our voices small, they can also help us physiologically to feel safer in our nervous system and bodies when we start sharing our voices. The more I expressed myself, the more I became physically healthy – my chronic fatigue and thyroid problems cure.
Top 5 essential oils for freeing our voice
Here are my favorite 5 oils that can support us in this journey – to calm fear, connect with our truth and to support us in opening our hearts and feeling our emotions.
- Chamomile (German/blue) – an intense, sweet, spicy oil, the soft, calming, calming energy supports the fear and fear that can come up when we start speaking to our truth. If our nervous system is high, or we ‘burn’ with anger to keep everything, this is the oil for us.
- Bergamot – Bergamot, a sweet, citrus -like, floral oil, is the perfect relaxing plant fellow for mitigating the fear of what others can think of us, feeling us safer and helping us to resolve inner criticism, to alleviate perfectionism and stop performing.
- Rosemary – a strong, fresh, woody, spicy oil that can help us erase mental fog and get clarity about what we want to speak, Rosemary strengthens the relationship between our ideas and our voice, so that we can find the words we really want to speak.
- Geranium – Geranium helps us a heavy, sweet floral oil and helps us to make contact with and feel our emotions, to regulate our emotional overwhelming and to open our hearts. It helps us to mitigate and release so that we can feel what is true and start to express that.
- Incense frequencies – A woody, spicy oil, incense has a meditative quality that helps us connect to what is true for us at a deeper level. An oil that helps us to connect to our inner wisdom; It helps us to speak from a place of deeper self -awareness and integrity. It can be a great oil to support while we reflect and reflect.
3 essential oil paint for self -expression
There are some simple rituals with which we can work to deepen with self -expression, working on 3 levels:
- Regulating our fear
- Hear our heart and inner voice
- Tell our truth
Here are some rituals to support these 3 steps:
Self -sewing diffuser mixture – to regulate our fear
Fear always comes up when we start to express who we really are – and so working with essential oils can really help us calm it down.
Mix 3 drops of bergamot, 2 drops of chamomile and 2 drops of incense in water in an electric diffuser or candle burner and diffused for 30 minutes.
Sit down and breathe in the oils and let them calm your nervous system.
Hart -throat Massageblend – for healing our hearts and inner voice
If we are not used to share our voice, it can be difficult to even know what we want to say – we can feel lost. So working with a mix to help us connect to our body, heart and emotions is useful to help us feel us again.
Mix 3 drops of geranium, 2 drops of bergamot and 1 drop of incense in 15 ml of grape seed oil or a carrier oil of your choice. Gently massage the mix in your body in a direction to the heart and concentrates on applying to your chest, throat and shoulders – your heart and throat chakras – while inhaling the scent.
Turn off yourself while you do this: “What does my heart want to say that I have restrained?” Allow everything – and note it in a diary.
Inhalation for clarity and courage – tell for moments of truth
As we become clearer our truth, there can be time when we want to express it. Use an inhaler to support us in this.
Pop 3 drops of incense on a cotton pad and place it in an inhaler.
Use this when you need to enter to know your truth – and for courage it speaks.
Our voice is important
In general, I want you to know that your voice is important – and you can start cultivating safety to share it. It is not about becoming ‘louder’, but to become ‘real’. To allow ourselves to express our truth, even if our voice shakes – that has been my journey. Essential oils will not do the work for us, but they will walk next to us, help us lean and reconnect with ourselves.
What I found, as I did, was that my voice became medicine for others who also wanted to share their voices. If you have ever silenced, ashamed, disconnected or not sure how to speak your truth – start small. Breathe in the oils, feel in your heart – and let your inner voice rise.
Go carefully – explore your oils – and have fun with it!
Nicole Barton
Consultant Aromatherapist
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