Escaping The Blame Game

No guilt……..No shame

Every time we let go of a weighty belief in consciousness, we gain not only freedom, but also joy in life.

Blame’s emotional response is conditioned into the physical human response system… in other words, it is automatic.

We automatically look for a point where we can place the reason, judgment and possible punishment for the injustice we feel and experience, directly or indirectly.

Guilt wants justice, punishment, retribution (how do I know all this, just pay attention to your feelings, they will show you the emotional content of your feelings, attitude and beliefs) ………. It’s not that blaming is wrong, but that it leads us to responses that create more problems than they solve and continually repeat the past.

Extreme guilt creates and justifies war. Guilt involves anger and resentment and distances us from those we feel hurt by and has little need for forgiveness.

Debt also drains our life energy, causing us to waste enormous amounts of time and energy “getting back at the bastards and not solving problems.” Forgiveness means letting go, it does not mean condoning the action of the other person or group.

Most religions are the primary programmers of guilt, which lead to feelings of guilt and then to actions that convey feelings of shame, anger, retaliation, and so on. Guilt is a reaction in which we as humans try to rid ourselves of the feeling of our own fear, hurt, pain, guilt and other feelings that hinder our enjoyment of life. But most of the time we end up in a cycle that continually returns to the point of blame, as it goes, and an endless loop in the mind, like a chatterbox, repeating itself over and over again.

If you follow the simplicity of your own feelings, they will lead you to this circular process. The cycle of repetition can be broken. Breaking the cycle of chatter will not only free you from the cycle of guilt and desire for retribution. You also increase your life energy and zest for life.

Intellect can be a valuable tool in breaking the circuit of guilt. Notice the feelings and what they make you want to do, feel and act. Let’s say it was a parent who shamed or abused you physically, mentally, or both. ……….remember the feelings, write them down and also how they make you want to act. Use your creative imagination to take the action (remember that imagination is NOT the objective world, its imagination), even better to carry it out in a drama…..I often went into the forest, took a stick and beat imaginatively the mess out of the perpetrators that caused my feelings of anger, guilt, shame and guilt. Also during the times I was doing this, I began to recognize that my grandparents were executing and enacting their own programming, acting UNconsciously, as I had often done in my own life. Recognition is a powerful tool for reconciling circular hooks in our emotional mind-body system.

Bodywork, massage, rolfing, yoga, ti-chi and exercise are also a way to break through the conditional emotional responses that have taken over the mind’s body’s responses.

It’s your life. By taking responsibility (the ability to respond), you will not only heal the conflicts within your mind-body system, but you will also gain joy, life interest, mental and emotional acuity and insight.